Sunday, November 20, 2011


I come downstairs this morning.
Do you know who´s birthday it is.
no reply
he is watching tv.
It is M(a boy in his preschool)
no reply...

Still a couple of hours later when we have started our working I ask again.
There is a birthday today.
Do you know who it is.
It is M... he replies

so he heard me...
glad he did
sad he did not reply

So now he is off with hubby...
I bailed
could not stomach this one.... been there before... typical birthdays....
Hope he enjoys heimself and hubby brings home pictures we can talk about.... I just could not handle other peoples eyes today.
The question that hangs in the air
I have no intention of explaining anything to anyone.

I will not deprive him of a social outing he enjoys. Just because of someones looks. So glad there are two of us.
So glad indeed.

Since last winter things have been slow and victories have been far between...
something happened.
I have blamed the play school
still do
now I blame myself as well.
How can he be happy when I am not

The therapist the play school hired quit before she started.
Square one again

Waiting and hoping that someone will like teaching that my boy will get to know him an love him.

It is unacceptable that he does not get his therapy time for three months as has been the our situation.

It is my responsibility to see to that he gets what he needs... and what the others will not do we do at home.

I have no team of ABA therapists marching in and out of my house turned out we could not afford it and even if we could they are as rare as white ravens...
it is just me and hubby... trying to hold it together.
Keep our head above the water.
Pining for progress.
Dreaming of a future.
Trying to remember that happiness is a state of mind.
Or a state somewhere else

Sunday, November 13, 2011

video modeling

I have only just begun to see and understand how video modeling can teach play skills.

What we do is make short scripts and play themes we want him to learn his brothers act out the themes and when the sequence is learned and several others in addition we encourage his playmates to use the learned sequences in other settings with other toys and in longer play sessions.

We have already taught scripts that include cooking,
making pizza and disgusting food and tasting food and calling in animals to eat.
We have made scripts with doctor themes both with puppets and acted.
We made a Rango game
pirate game
Animal games
Driving cars
Fishing and camping game
Taking the bus game.
Dragon and eggs game.

We make at least two versions of each sequence and often more than that ... I do not want him to get stuck.

I have already seen how overlearning can occur and that makes him rigid...
and now we have started to try and get him to use bits and pieces and stringing them together as he pleases... more like normal play.
This we began just this week and some bits and pieces find their way....

We will continue to add themes but focus on the length of the play session as well and how many ideas he comes up with.

I intend to use video modeling for other kind of social skills... and the beginning looks promising I just have not had the time to be systematic enough...

I guess I will just pick out the skills from Making a Difference. Getting starting this week....

The ipad is a magic tool for this ... so easily portable always at hand to show the videos and then just put him in the situaltion we create and... voila ( almost)

Making scripts and data sheets for the scripts are a lot of work... but it works... works great

The wonderful thing about this all is that the teacher can back off... lessening and deleting any prompts.

That is a huge relief for us both.
Me and him and him and me to eternity... we both get tired.

Tonight I sat in my sofa hoarding the ipad and just pulling the reins a little bit and watched my sons play for more than an hour... the older ones playing in shifts to get computer time upstairs and my little one laughing and enjoying himself....
Sometimes he chooses which games are played sometimes his brothers and then the butting in queen sees to that the certain games get played and taught.

Works wonders.

Friday, November 11, 2011

Current curriculum

Say versus tell. Finally over...
both begin with s in Icelandic are two syllables and end with u so auditory processing problems... blossoming.
This took a while
Next step is when to ask and when to reciprocate and then.... I am getting excited conversation....topics

We are still doing perspective practices no surprise....
working towards that seeing leads to knowing... and someday towards judging whether someone else knows or not and all the many little steps in between...

Time concepts... still there... we took break and started just up again.

Clues to the whereabouts of objects ... two clues with prepositions are now mastered and I think that more is overdoing it
... three clues have been put on hold.

Instead asking him to hand me objects and counting like give me two dogs and one candy.
It is not the most fun kind of practices but I can see how it expands his language processing.
We put this on hold six months ago but now he is ready.

Pronunciation... Never ending story... some improvements indeed... lots of work ahead.

Reading... fluency improving... comprehension coming up.
Wh questions from another angle and doing it again... he can do some but not fluently enough, and some are still missing.

pronoun confusion... We did the pronoun programs and he gained some understanding of them but he is still mixing them up....So for perspective practices and lots of other things we really need to clear up this misunderstanding. I try to teach it through games and activities. We are dressing up and looking in the mirror and so on.

Video modeling and games.
Starting to to implement learnt sequences and themes to more dynamic settings ... encouraging his brothers to use the video sequences in ordinary playing... He needs to spend longer time playing and add more ideas to the game. It is coming along.
His brothers are the ones that teach him. He is lucky to have them.

Structured games and activities he takes over to the playschool.
Drawing and play dough and legos and more...

And the new all time favorite the piano

I watch him as he is drumming his fingers on the table and he seems far away in his own world but his fingers are practicing the music he has learnt.
Not lost

Friday, November 4, 2011

Thursday and friday

Crazy pace caught up with me...
Called our consultant and she was kind so I cried.
Hope she does not give up on me as well.
I am impatient.
One therapist for three children was what blew my lid off.
Trying to be all the team that was missing.
Be it all.
I am his mother... I feel that is what I am supposed to do.
Just need to stay rigid and stony faced or I crack and I did and I will again there is a pattern.
So what does humpty dumbty doo.
bo hooo hoo
Put myself back together again.
Sleep a little.
Cry some more... get a headache and start over again.
This is not grief over my sons condition this is just plain tiredness.

They hired some one at the play school so next week he will be back on track after three weeks of something somehow and me driving myself nuts.

Thusday there is piano...
Starting to love those days...

Friday was off from work... a break... what are whole two hours for.
I read the paper... true story.
Then I got a visit from a friend and a neighbour.

So two hours flew...
How are you feeling she asks.
It cracked me up... I have no idea... we laughed.
It was nice.